My Daughter

[Fee]

ngodngam,

Please hear me when I say that I am not pushing my child academically.

What I mean by setting my daughter up for success is implimenting a simple routine with achievable goals. i.e. her first task when she gets home from school is to hang up her coat. So when she hangs up her coat I can give her praise.

It has now become clear that my daughter's autistic friend has inadvertantly caused some of the problem. The friend has been repeatedly telling my daughter that she is ugly, stupid, horrid and fat. The friend is simply repeating words that she has heard and redirecting them at my daughter, this behaviour is not malicious but the constant negative reinforcement has taken its toll.

Now I know where I need to start. I have some easy tasks (no problem reassuring a very slim athletic child that they are not fat ) and some more difficult tasks (keeping this from happining again next term).

Fee

[srivijaya]

The friend has been repeatedly telling my daughter that she is ugly, stupid, horrid and fat. The friend is simply repeating words that she has heard and redirecting them at my daughter, this behaviour is not malicious but the constant negative reinforcement has taken its toll.

Hi Fee,
There's usually something tangible behind apparent random behaviour. It just takes a while to root it out. I think you're doing the right thing. I keep hoping it's going well for you.
Namaste
Kris

[ngodngam]

Dear Fee - my apology for misunderstanding. It seems that my suggestions do not relate to your daughter’s problem. For the problem of children teasing each other at school, the teacher’s help to explain to all students in class (plus the parent’s explanation to the child) will be more useful. Hope that everything will be OK soon.
All the bests
Ngodngam