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Thread: To do or not to do?

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    To do or not to do?

    Have you ever been like this? You know about something, say, Buddhism, and after you posted or talked about it as clear/honest as you could then everyone went silent, dead silence. It often happened like that until you had to ask yourself maybe there was something wrong about the way you told it (in case that you really knew what you knew was so true.) So what would you do in that kind of situation?
    I really want to know because that always have been happened to me so many times. And because of my cultural and spiritual background I’ve never tried to bother anyone more after their silence even I did know that it would be the benefit of them, not me, not my ego.

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    I've had this experience quite often, wanderer. There are a lot of possible explanations. Sometimes the others simply can't think of anything to say because what you said resolves all their questions. Sometimes maybe you've simply exceeded their knowledge on the topic, and for them to say more would be to reveal their ignorance, which is embarrassing to many. Or maybe they just agree with you and don't think anything more needs to be said about it.

    It's hard to say for sure, because not having a response means you're working with very little information. If it happens to you very often, maybe others think you are very smart.

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    Hmm…Why I think of the opposite? That others think I'm so dull. Hahaha!
    Seriously, shouldn’t we have to guard against our ego all the time? Even while we think we are telling “the truth”? Shouldn’t we think all the times that maybe we’re wrong and we’re letting our ego play its role?
    Besides, if I remember it right, Buddha said something like “who says it and what about it’s said are less important than the right time to say it.”
    We always have no patience to wait for the right time, haven’t we? ;-)

    P.S. Anyway, your reply makes me feel good about myself, if that's not my ego swell!

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    Pride, ego, over-confidence, etc, are all dangers, I think! Yes, it seems pretty easy for me to become too proud or confident, and it's a good idea to be wary of those feelings. I have to keep reminding myself of how much I don't know, which is almost everything.

    I like the approach of the ancient Greek skeptic philosopher, Pyrrho. He would only say that things appeared to him to be such-and-such. He wouldn't claim to have absolute knowledge about any metaphysical claim. Wise man, I think.

    Anyway, maybe others think we are dull simply because the things we talk about (Buddhist-related concepts) don't provide as many quick thrills as do arguing, joking, exaggerating, etc. I'm content to be thought of as a boring person.

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    Anyway, maybe others think we are dull simply because the things we talk about (Buddhist-related concepts) don't provide as many quick thrills as do arguing, joking, exaggerating, etc. I'm content to be thought of as a boring person.
    Yeah....FBM. Right...you are soooo terrible boring that no one likes you...except for us boring folks here at BWB!

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    Thanks, hajurba!

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